Random Self-Help Notes

Thanks David!

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1. Accept everything the way it is. Don't act like a victim. Accept
it. Confront reality.

2. Take responsibility. Make things happen. Be responsible for your
thoughts. Especially during times when it's easy to blame others.

3. Go to work on yourself. Not on women. You can't change others. You
can change yourself. If things don't go your way. Don't change other
people.

4. Evict your inner wussy. Show up and kick it out. Don't get the
secondary emotional payoff. Complaining about things and getting
attention. The mild superiority for a short time. Get rid of it.

5. Build a powerful capable self image that you love. Strong. Decision
making. Respectful.

6. Move your frame of reference inside. Have your own thoughts. Don't
take cues from others. Have an inner locus of control. Make sure
everyone else is on the same page as opposed to making sure you are.

7. Stop making identity meaning out if external events. Keep your self
image strong. Don't take what people think of you to heart. It's not
about you. If they disapprove of you. That's them.

8. Eliminate failure by learning from it. Failure is an INVENTED
concept. Don't attach meaning to failure. Stop. Look at the experience
you "failed" at. And compare it with the price you paid for the
knowledge you gained. The lesson you learned is always a bargain.

9.compare your progress and success to yourself. Not to others. We all
want to be winners. 2 types of winning. Getting what you want. And the
other is beating someone else. If you spend your life trying to beat
other people. You won't get what you want. Run your own race.

10. Evolve constantly and consciously. Always seek the next level and
paradigm. You cannot evolve your lifespan. You can evolve all you want
until you die. Always seek personal evolution.

11. See yourself as "high status". High social standing. Walk into a
room. Expect to be a high status person. Not that you are better than
other people. But just the way you walk through the world. A mature
man. Deal with inner and putter conflict. Help other people work
together in teams to get what you all want. Controls emotions.

12. Stop appologizing. Many acceptions to this rule. Use maturely if
you really mess up. Don't appologize for who you are or if someone
doesn't like who you are. Don't appologize for approval.

13. Stop seeking approval. You have your own permission to do things.
Don't do things for the acceptance of others. This is especially true
to women. Don't be emotionally clingy or wear out your welcome. Don't
be needy.

14. Stop giving approval to get it. NEVER tell a woman she can do no
wrong. It's manipulative. Don't think that because you were nice to a
woman and she doesn't like you that you can say well she doesn't
deserve me. Liars commuting suicide.

15. Stop trading status for approval. No woman will take this deal.
Don't give a woman whatever she wants and whatever you have for her
approval and love. It's counter productive. The more you give the
worse it gets.

16. Untangle past, present, and future. Physical, logical, and
emotional. Short, medium, and Long term gratification. Fear of
something and the actual event. As well as other non-useful
combinations. Don't live the same day every day. Don't live in the
past. It doesn't exist anymore. Don't live afraid of the future or
focus on anything that prevents you from your goal. Don't argue with
someone amped on some emotion. What will you accomplish if you are
hyped up on emotion? Whatever relationship you are in it will get
worse. No logic. Avoid instant gratification. Pleasure of eating good
fattening food. Medium gratification is 6 to 10 hours after. Long term
gratification is a day later to your life. Spend 60 seconds before you
eat something to think of the long term and medium gratification.
Humans are horrible at knowing how they are going to feel. Fear and
desire. Don't waste energy fearing or desiring something soon to happen.

17. Surround yourself with success models. In person and in media.
Groups to achieve goals. Surround yourself with help. Don't talk about
and do counter productive things. Such as video games. If it's not
something you are interested in. You shouldn't be doing it.

18. Know your purpose or path in life. And stay on it. Man who chases
2 rabbits catches none. Pick ONE path. Lock yourself in a room with a
blank peice of paper and figure it out. It may take you a week or a
year. Do it. Don't pick someone elses. It makes you 100% more
attractive.

19. Travel. Regularly get outside your bubble. Different cities.
Different states. Even countries. Expand your mind. Veiw people living
differently. The more you see the more you learn, the more you evolve.
The more interesting of a person you are. The more attractive you
become.

Principles. Rules of thumb.

20. Every day find your center. Get in touch with your self image.
Your purpose. Become the center. Make yourself who you want to be.
Notice the reality around you.

21. Focus on the core skills and your inner game. The techniques will
take care of themselves. There is no magic pills. Know principles. Not
pick up lines.

22. Accept and embrace transition anxiety / vulnerability when you
take on something new. Look at it through a beginners perspective. You
are a beginner. If you can accept the vunurabiluty you will be fine.

23. Learn to enjoy the process of learning rather than the result of
what is to be learned. Learning is supposed to be fun. To better
yourself.

24. teach others every great thing you've learned immediately. You
learn faster as opposed to being taught many times.

25. Never whine, bitch, or complain. EVER. Never criticize or condemn.
It's about you. Not what's going on around you.

26. Objectify your demons so that you control them rather than them
controlling you. A demon is something that comes up on you and
controls you. A bad emotion. Witness the bad emotion and cut it off.
Learn about it. And how to control it. Disassociate.

27. Become selfish so you can become generous. Make yourself important
first. You are your own #1 priority.

28. Surround yourself with success models while ELIMINATING failure
models. Failure models are holding you back. Spend less time or get
them at their best if you cannot get rid of them.

29. Keep doing what works and stop doing what doesn't. Ask how people
learned something. Keep track of the things you learn when it works.

30. Maintain composure. Be successful emotionally. Physically.
Financially. Never let an emotion overcome you. When others freak out
become calmer.

31. Prove to yourself over and over that you can deal with
"rejection". Rejection doesn't have to affect your life.

32. Learn to sacrifice short term gratification for long term success.
Stratigically do it. Don't do something for a year if it means to get
something else. If it means preventing yourself from dating or going
to bars or expensive games you could focus on what matters.

33. Learn how to always enjoy yourself no matter what's happening
around you. You are responsible for generating your own concept of
reality. You can control it. You are responsible for it. Joy is
possible at ANY time.

34. Value yourself and your time more than any woman. Have respect for
yourself. Never degrade yourself.

35. Develope your awareness. Focus on the now. What's going on in your
body and around you.

36. Learn to control your emotions. Emotions are chemicals. Addictive
chemicals. Addictive drugs so to speak. Take responsibility for your
emotions. Don't be out of control with emotions. People will push your
buttons trying to control your emotions.

37. Become unbelievably honest, authentic, and blunt when it's time to
be direct. The more you are. The more respect and attraction you will
get. Never sugar coat it. Be straight. Put them in Their place. Tell
them what they are doing wrong.

38. Learn to identify social status by communication and body language
instantly. Talk to all high status people. Become high status so you
don't get blown off.

39. Become an expert on your own self-deception habits. Self deception
is such a freakshow is that it covers it's own tracks. When you notice
yourself deceiving yourself. Catch it.

40. Balance learning. Practicing. And doing.

41. Constantly improve yourself. Optimize. Flex. Find ways to do
things faster and more productive. You can always Improve.

42. Stop projecting your strengths and weaknesses on to others. Make a
list of people you hate and their characteristics and the people you
admire and their characteristics. You are lookin into a mirror.

43. Eliminate distructive habits and replace them with habits that
help your life. The older the habit. The harder to change.

44. Recognize when you are losing control of yourself and stop. Just
stop. Don't judge or talk negatively. Or victimize yourself. And just
stop. Spend some time alone. Meditate. Chill out.

45. Make your territory yours. Find a home base to rejuvinate at. If
anyone is doing something you don't like in your space. Just say "hold
on right now, I don't like what you are doing right now and I'd
appreciate it if you just left."

46. Lead. Find people who have potential and help them achieve what
they want.

47. Stop idealizing women. She doesn't own a halo. She has flaws. Know
who she really is. Don't get attached.

48. Stop idealizing relationships. It won't fix everything.

49. Let her problems be her problems. Healthy personal boundries. You
both can mature on your own. You have your own path. If it's her
drama. She created that. She needs to solve it. It's her maturing
process.

50. Don't try to control her by supporting her or giving her money.
Don't be a wallet.

51. Stop trying to impress women. Don't spend more money than you have
to. Stop trying to sound smart and charming. It doesn't impress them
at all. Don't let them change who you are.

52. As you learn. Pay careful attention to every detail of your
personal hygiene, dress, style, posture, voice tone. Until it has
reached the level of "unconscious competence". Pay attention to
details of you.

53. Eliminate every nervous tick. Gesture. Facial expression and
unconscious response to challenges with women. Maintain first eye
contact with beautiful women. YOU! come here! I've been looking for
you for awhile! DO NOT look away. Ask women if you do things you
aren't aware of.

54. Make yourself into the most interesting person a woman has ever
met. You are lucky to be a man. Women use signs of fertility. That
goes away. Men can never stop being interesting. How to be
interesting. Look out into the world. What do the masses love. What
things are people so attracted to. Find the magnets and talk about
what they talk about.

55. Set up your life so you are automatically meeting beautiful
successful women all the time. Find women you like spending time with.

56. Behave as if you have 100 women calling you everyday. Act as if
you are busy.

57. Don't be boring or predictable. Don't communicate this. If they
can guess what you are about to do. You are doing it wrong. Alway have
something interesting going on. Don't tell them where they are going.
Women would rather go to a place they don't like than a place they
have been before.

58. Learn how to tell an interesting story about anything. Interesting
stories have structures you can learn. Think movies. A protagonist.
Set it up like a movie pattern.

59. Learn how to use cocky comedy. Arrogance with humor. Sassy. Fun.
Flirtatious. Things that would make her jaw drop and playfully hit
you. Too cocky is insecure. Too funny is goofy and immature.

60. Make friends with attractive women by being the guy women like to
be around. Make friends with the kinds of women you'd one day like to
have. Women can sence if you're a guy who likes women. Don't be
resentful for women. Be a woman friendly guy.

61. Learn how turn a woman on emotionally, mentally and physically.
Ask women what they think about when they masturbate.

62. Learn the entire mating process of humans in detail. Eye contact
to sex. Whole spectrum.

63. Learn to read situations before acting or communicating.

64. Tease. In every way. Tease psychologically mentally and
physically. Turns them on. Cocky comedy. They like it? Stop. Build
anticipation.

65. Be honest. Ethical and authentic with women. Always. If you are
looking at her tits and she asks what you are doing: YOU TELL HER YOU
ARE LOOKING AT HER TITS. if she pushes them up for you to notice. Tell
them you are noticing. Staring at a woman. She asks what you are
doing. Hold your hand up. I'm not done yet.

66. Set a boundary as soon as possible. She touches you. Just look at
her hand. Say don't touch me. If she does something unacceptable tell
her not to do that anymore.

67. Look past the content to see the true meaning of what's going on.
All angles of who someone is as a person.

68. Engage her body and emotions. Not her mind. Not at first. Never be
logical. Not interesting. Be fun and adventurous.

69. Turn everything into an adventure. Take them to run errands.
Grocery shop. DMV. Buy shoes.

70. Convince yourself that what's about to happen is going to be
unbelievably fun. Then convince her of it. Everything is a fun
adventure.

71. Always act and communicate in a way that leaves her wanting to do
feel and see more. Mid conversation leave on a good note. At it's
highest.

72. When you hit a challenge or a setback. Go back to the basics.
Don't act out on desperation.

73. When you feel yourself losing power with a woman. Stop. Step back.
And have her come to you. If the relationship is about to end. End it
immediately. As soon as you see signs. Keep them around. Step back.
Wait til she comes to you. You can still be friends. I've learned it
the hard way. This will be easy to remember.

74. Have at least 3 female friends that are like the girls you want to
meet. Always have 3 around.

75. When you find something she REALLY likes. Stop. Pull back. And
make her really want it before you tease her with a little more.

76. Learn how to make conversations interesting FOR THE WOMAN. Listen
to what conversations women have with eachother. Learn that kind of
talk.

77. Learn what it means to be a "Renaissance Man" and become one.
Renaissance was a time in history when cultivations happened.
Cultivate interests in everything.